Don’t just accept it – Promote it

Poster - Don't just accept it - Promote it.

Recently, I’ve read and listened to alot about people’s views on inclusive education for children with disabilities. I am an advocate of mainstream schooling options for children with disabilities and see in our future a world where schools welcome (not just accept) children of all types, with programs that support all learning needs across all spectrums of abilities, backgrounds and interests. However I also understand that many parents are currently making decisions for their child based on the best options they have available at any given point in time. Until mainstream schooling is well resourced, well supported and easily accessible to all, the choices families make for their children are their own, based on a multitude of considerations and should not be judged.

In this post , I want to reflect on my own experience as a parent of a child without a disability, but who has been exposed to disability since birth due to the nature of my work and interactions with some of my friends who have disabilities.

I’m extremely grateful for what she has and will continue to learn from these experiences. She is learning to embrace difference and to have compassion for people who have different challenges in their lives, she is also learning the following things:

  • Resilience, adaptability, and perseverance – who better to learn these things from than those who must exercise these characteristics every day to participate in an often inaccessible environment?
  • She is learning that there are alternate ways to do things, and that people have strengths in different areas. This has been helpful when we try to teach her about learning new things, or that you can’t be good at everything.
  • She is learning that if you have trouble doing something one way, then try another. There is a wonderful creativity in the adaptation of getting to the same end but in a different way.
  • She is learning that how you look or behave on the outside is not an indication of who you are on the inside.
  • She is learning not to fear difference but to ask questions in a respectful way so that she can understand.
  • Through watching and participating in some of the activities that may be modified to include a child with disabilities, she has the opportunity to learn another way, consolidate her learning, or pick up on something she may have missed. She can learn strategies for learning that she may otherwise not have been exposed to.

Currently she does not have a child with a disability in her class but she did have in Kindergarten. I welcomed this and would do so again in the future. I see it as a benefit to her learning rather than a detriment. Just as I do when there is a child from another country, culture, or with lives with differences to hers. All children take up the teacher’s time. That’s the point of school. Some take more than others and some need more than others. Most teachers manage the competing demands of a class full of children masterfully and with a fairness that is sometimes difficult for parents of individual children to perceive.

None of us are without risk of some day also having a disability or challenge to our participation in mainstream life. One day my daughter may grow up to have a child of her own with a disability, or a friend or family member. Maybe she will be tasked with caring for me in the future. I’m proud and thankful that she has had the opportunity to develop an awareness of the types of support, equipment and creative problem solving that she may have to undertake in her role as a caregiver. She knows about wheelchairs, powered mobility, sensory considerations, PODDs, speech generating devices, and eye gaze technology. She knows that just because someone can’t speak, or she can’t understand them immediately, that doesn’t mean they don’t have anything to say. She is excited to hear of the accomplishments of my friends or other people with disabilities that we read about and often asks questions like “How do they drive a car?” or “How does he brush his teeth?”. I answer her with as much information as I can share because learning these things is a huge asset to her, to me and the whole of society. Maybe one day she will invent something that will change peoples lives (which may include mine and yours) because she has learned these things as a child. In fact she already wrote about this as a 5 year old.

A child's picture with the text "I will help people who have Autism. I will help them with the talking. Remember Halloween - Boo" (The end of the message was distracted by her upcoming Halloween celebrations). The picture shows her helping her mum at work by holding a PODD communication book.
“I will help people who have Autism. I will help them with the talking. Remember Halloween – Boo” (The end of the message was distracted by her upcoming Halloween celebrations). The picture shows her helping her mum at work by holding a PODD communication book.

 

To those children, families, teachers, support staff and principals who are or have been in mainstream environments. Thankyou. You guys are the Suffragettes for an inclusive and accessible society. Of course we need more resourcing, support and learning to make this thing work well, but the solution is not to give up. You guys are paving the way for better inclusion, and we will learn from the challenges you face today. Just because something is hard, it doesn’t mean it isn’t worth it.

So let’s all do all that we can to achieve our goal faster:

  • offer your support to the teacher and school by volunteering to help in class with reading or other activities,
  • show your encouragement and acceptance to the parent of the child with a disability who has to show up at school every day wondering if other parents are resenting their child’s place in the classroom,
  • invite them on a play date or to birthday parties,
  •  talk to your kids about the things they can learn from every child in their class. Use the child with disabilities as an example of positive traits like resilience, adaptability and perseverance and talk about their personality and interests rather than their disability.
  • if you don’t know what to do, how you can help, or what to tell your child when they ask you questions, then ask someone in a respectful way. For example, “My son is really excited to have your daughter in his class. What is a good way to explain to him about her communication book?”

One day the word inclusion will not be necessary. We won’t need a word for it as it will just be a thing. It’s up to us how long we take to get there. Proactive messages and actions will speed things up. Don’t just accept it, promote it!! I’d like to see it in my lifetime please!!

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